How It is, How It has always been: Men will Continue Risking It All for a Woman's Waist

People continue to put forward the argument that it is how they are built. Men are meant to chase women and that is how it has always been. It might be true, or not. I don't know. I don't care. What I care about as regards the issue are boundaries and self-respect. These are the two things most men are likely to throw to the wind while in pursuit of a woman, especially one who does not want them. But doesn't it count as full-on madness to put important things like one's livelihood at risk for a woman's waist?

Last month, a BBC documentary on sexual harassment in universities hit social media like an earthquake. The effect was damning. We talked about it for days. Now that the storm has died down, maybe we should cast the net a little wider. Let's look at this thing from another angle. I really believe that this matter is so broad that almost everyone has a sub to pick here.

In July of this year, I was stopped by someone who works security at the estate I live in. He started his talk with "I could lose my job for this." I tried to listen because I honestly thought if you were going to say something and put your job at risk, it had to be important. He asked for my number. That was when it got kind of weird. But I gave him anyway. He was keeping me in one spot for too long and it was getting late. I went my way. He called me a few hours later, sounding like we'd known each other for years. He was even calling me baby. 

"Baby, have you eaten? Baby, what are you doing?"

I don't play like that, so I blocked his number. He obviously didn't have anything to tell me. I didn't see him for a while after that because I moved out for a bit. A month ago, I moved back in. He started hounding me about how he has been unable to reach me. He wants me to unblock his number. I didn't. Twice now he has cornered me. The last time he said he loved me.

He could get fired. He knows. I know. But the foolishness continues. As it does for a lot of other men.

 It's unbelievable that a person would disregard any sense of self-preservation for a woman that doesn't want them. First question. Does the need for sex trump the need for a source of livelihood? Usually, I would say definitely not. But humans seem to be very committed to taking unnecessary risks these days.

How else would you explain risking your job to have sex with a student you should be mentoring? To what madness would you ascribe making passes at someone when you know it could jeopardize your career?

I know someone who was almost murdered by a cultist because of a woman. He knew her man was a top guy in our school. Everybody warned him. "Guy give yourself brain. Her guy go off you and nothing go happen". He went after her anyway. 

"Those whom the gods seek to destroy, they first make mad." 

The girl encouraged him, led him on. See, women will be the end of you people. In the end, he got caught by the girl's man and his cultist buddies beat him within an inch of his life.

We all know stories that at least look like these ones. People have died going after women they cannot and should not have. Wars have started over women. People have lost all their possessions, personal dignity, everything. But will you stop risking life and limb for what a woman is carrying? Probably not. I really hope those ten minutes are worth it.

 This tradition will probably not stop. Somewhere right now, probably not very far away, a man is staring at a woman, ready to risk everything, public disgrace, humiliation, possible sexual harassment suits, to have a go at her. It will not change. This is how it is. This is how it has always been. Maybe one day, a woman's waist will have just as much value as money. Rumours are, it already does. I hear people are already accepting it as payment for taxi rides. LOL. O di mma.

In conclusion, get your priorities right. Won't be nice to literally die on a woman's matter. But if you have accepted or decided that it is a woman that will kill you, you won't be the first and you're sure not going to be the last. Women will continue to deal with men like you. Men who don't understand "No". Men that don't know when to stop. Maybe one day the sane ones will outnumber and drown out the current majority that would die first before accepting that a woman doesn't want them. But until then, Aluta Continua!